The Week in Review | January26-February 1, 2016
WARNING: This week’s “Cheers” is not spicy or scintillating or filled with crazy storires, because honestly, the past few days were pretty ordinary and simple. And I liked them like that. There weren’t a ton of fancy outings or wild nights (you know us, usually the wild party animal types! 😉 ), but it was good and full and memorable in it’s own right, like a trusty sweatshirt you wear all the time—not flashy by any means, but familiar and just what you need. Also, I’m terrible at analogies and just compared my last seven days to something you wear. OY VEY.
So what not-wild things have we been up to since last Monday?
- We finally got around to hanging up some wall decor! I’ve been stock piling a lot of our old decorations in the guest room, waiting to live a little in our house until we knew how it felt and had a better sense of what might or might not work in the space. This past week, I got the ol’ it’s-time-to-get-some-things-out feeling, so I rummaged around in there and picked out a few frames to go up! Luke was sweet enough to oblige, and followed me around the house with a drill and hammer and two strong hands for holding things to the wall while I stood back at a distance all, “Can you push it to the left about .000025 inches? Oooooo, perfect!” (Completely unrelated: He is SO patient).
- Do you remember our debt-free chain? It’s hanging right by our front door now so we have a daily visual reminder of our goals and why we’re making big sacrifices right now. Luke took the time on Saturday to get it all nailed up in that pretty design while I watched, offered too much advice, handed him a few nails, and mentioned something about paper chains being a cute idea for decorating in future kiddo rooms (mentioning this while he balanced on a chair with a giant pile of paper at his feet and a mostly blank wall in front of him was probably not my best move).
- We are working to be more intentional every week about leaving Sunday as a day of total rest and refreshment, and I’d say this is quickly becoming one of our favorite new marriage habits. We get up and go to the early service at GCCC (a big feat for someone like me who isn’t really all that crazy about early mornings in general, but who, for the record, is working hard to start her day much earlier so she can tell her work day who’s boss 😉 ), meander out for a little Sunday Starbucks afterwards (we usually use this time to look at the week ahead, catch up on a book we’re currently reading, etc), and then head home to.do.nothing. And it’s wonderful! Yesterday, Luke laid down on one couch and read while I propped myself up on the other with two huge pillows to spend the afternoon hand lettering some signs for around the house. We topped it all off with Date Night at Home, consisting of homemade pizzas, jammies, no-bakes, and a movie. I can’t even tell you how relaxing it was!
- We learned how to communicate and share with each other a little more. Sometimes I decide that having feelings or wants is selfish, and that it’s better to just keep them to myself than bother Luke with them. Except that Luke has never once said (or implied) that they’re a bother, but has mentioned a time or two he can’t read my mind (YOU CAN’T?!) and that things can’t get worked on or worked out if I don’t actually say them. Out loud. Even though that sounds downright crazy to me, we worked hard at the “I actually say things out loud” bit this week, and as it turns out? He.was.right. It’s not selfish or self-centered to have feelings and desires. It IS selfish and self-centered not to say them, to try and just “deal with them” on my own. What I discovered again this week is that marriage is a training ground, a place where you get to do the hard work of growing and maturing, but instead of going at it alone, you have a partner, a cheer leader, who fights right beside you and FOR you, because they see what you can’t yet. As Tim Keller says in his book The Meaning of Marriage (a MUST read—it’s so good and packed with so much wisdom), your spouse stands WITH you and says, “I see who God is making you, and it excites me! I want to be part of that. I want to partner with you and God in the journey you are taking to His throne. And when we get there, I will look at your magnificence and say, ‘I always knew you could be like this. I got glimpses of it on earth, but now look at you!”. I am thankful beyond words that Luke allows Jesus to show him glimpses of who I’ll be one day, and that he fights for that girl right now in the nitty gritty glory of every-day marriage.